The act of judging
To judge is to form an opinion or make a decision about something. When you judge someone, you are really only judging yourself. You are putting your own values and standards on that person. You are also judging yourself based on how you feel about that person.
Why do people judge?
There are many reasons why people judge others. Some people judge others to feel better about themselves. They might do this because they feel insecure or not good enough. Other people might judge others because they threaten them in some way. For example, if someone is very successful, they might judge them because they are jealous of their success. Some people also judge others because they have a need to control other people and their lives.
What are the consequences of judging?
When we judge others, we create an invisible barrier between us. We communicate to them that we are not like them, that we are better than them. And when we do this, we close ourselves off from any possibility of connection or understanding.
Judging also affects our own state of mind. It creates tension and anxiety, two emotions that are harmful to our physical and mental health. When we judge others, we are really only harming ourselves.
How judging reflects on you
When you take the time to focus on another person and what they are doing or not doing you are really only focusing on yourself. What that person is doing or not doing says nothing about them and everything about you. If you don’t like what you see it is a reflection of you.
How does it make you feel?
When you sit in judgment of another, you are really only revealing how you feel about yourself. If you are constantly finding fault with others, chances are there is something about yourself that you don’t like. It’s easy to be critical of others, but it only makes you feel bad in the end. Try to be more understanding and accepting of others, and you will find that you will like yourself a lot better.
What does it say about you?
When you judge another, you are not defining them, you are defining yourself. If you judge others, it only reflects your own insecurities and criticisms that you have of yourself. If you want to better yourself, focus on your own faults and work on fixing them instead of criticizing others.
Why it’s important to be mindful of your judging
It’s so easy in this day and age to get wrapped up in our opinions and thoughts of others. We see something that someone does or hear about someone and before we know it we’re judging them. We think to ourselves “How could they do that?” or “That’s so stupid.” But what we don’t realize is that when we’re judging another person, we’re not defining them, we’re actually defining ourselves.
It’s not helpful
When you’re in the moment and feeling reactive, it’s difficult to be mindful of your thoughts and judgments. You may not realize it, but the way you’re perceiving a situation can have a big impact on how you react to it.
If you’re constantly judging yourself and others, you’re more likely to feel stressed and anxious. And if you’re always comparing yourself to others, you’re likely to feel unhappy and discontented. Mindfulness can help you become more aware of your thoughts and reactions, so that you can less judgmental and more accepting.
It’s not fair
When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.
The more judgmental we are, the more unhappy we become. Each judgment we make creates a separation between us and the object of our judgment. This separation then leads to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and anxiety.
It’s also important to be mindful of the fact that when we judge others, we are really just projecting our own insecurities and fears onto them. We judge others because we fear that they will judge us. We think that if we can find something wrong with them, then we will feel better about ourselves.
The reality is that nobody is perfect and we all have our own flaws and shortcomings. The sooner we can accept this about ourselves and others, the sooner we can start living happier, more fulfilling lives.
It’s not who you want to be
Contrary to popular belief, people do not actually judge others based on who they want to be. Rather, they judge others based on who they are. That is why it is so important to be mindful of your judging.
When you are critical of someone, you are really just reflecting your own insecurities and shortcomings back onto them. By holding others up to an unrealistic standard, you’re only setting yourself up for disappointment.
In order to avoid falling into the trap of judging others, it is important to be mindful of your own thoughts and motivations. Ask yourself why you are passing judgment on someone. Is it because you are jealous of them? Is it because you don’t think they meet your standards? Whatever the reason may be, try to remember that everyone is doing the best they can with what they have.
It’s also important to remember that we all have different experiences and perspectives. What may seem like a small thing to you could be a big deal to someone else. Therefore, it’s important to always give people the benefit of the doubt and try to see things from their perspective.
By being mindful of your judging, you can avoid becoming a negative person and live a more positive life.